Showing posts with label thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label thoughts. Show all posts

June 16, 2016

On Warm-Weather Romance




Sometimes it’s nice when things don’t last.

Not every romance needs to be this life-changing event that ends in divorce court or being buried in matching grave sites right next to each other with some funny saying on the tombstone. Sometimes you can just learn a few lessons from a nice person who treated you well and made the summer fly by. And even if the love doesn’t end up being soul-shattering, you likely will take something from it for the rest of your life. It’s quite lovely to be able to look back on a relationship with someone who, though certainly not the love of your life, made you feel wonderful and for whom you wish only the best. How lucky we really are to have a nice summer under the stars to look back on, when everything lay before us and we knew that, if only for a month or so, we were with someone who loved us.




May 10, 2016

on humor




As much as we enjoyed this new life, we both are facing many obstacles. Which i think very common, especially with stubborn couple, like us. Small things becoming huge, and the other way around. You know the stories about one did not put the dirty clothes in the laundry basket, or one did not close the bathroom door. That shits, it happened, unavoidably. Not to mention individual habits, one is a morning person, the other is an night owl. One has a mild OCD symptoms, the other is just go with whatever suit the mood.

In the beginning it’s really hard for me to understand the entire situation. I am a very straight forward person, in the other hand; E is a very quiet one. Sometimes words that coming from my mouth sound really harsh for him and his quietness irritated me (we know this all along; it’s a matter of the amount of time we spent together, it is becoming more intents). Argument over argument happened once in a while. Sometimes it’s really hard. Sometimes it’s really easy. It makes me think about those people who passed their golden year marriage life. How’d they do it?

If you Google this situation, they all said communication, understanding and you know, all those positive verbs like the one in the self-help book will came out. Sadly, as someone who studies about human relation, i did not believe in self-help books, neither do E. Sometimes i pretend that our house is a social experiment lab, with two individual lives together trying to solve their problem together. I’m taking a self-note of whats not and to. I guess E’s also did the same way, of course, quietly.


However, I’m happy that we agreed to the bigger ideas of all this. Goals, future plans, who manage what (even tho i still insist that household works is both works,...damn it gender studies!). But yeah, this is all about not sweating the small stuff and a little humor. Wait, no, loads of humor! i think the key to pass all of this is to sharpening our ability to transform madness into humor. Well that’s just me, making summary of my mental social lab after this short span of period. I think when one loses their ability and not willing to put effort just to laugh about the situation, then we might need a counselor.

March 11, 2015

on the wind that doesn't blow to make trees dance but to test their roots


So 2015 went too fast! If I can ask the father of time to slow down, I might just going to beg to Him. Working as a freelancer was not as bad as I thought. Well it is tough, but it’s fine. Juggling between projects, working from a moving train, cook, making cloths, babysit in between or just lay down daydreaming about other interesting project. I'm actually laugh while writing this trying to remembering stuff i did since January. The roller coaster went like a flash, ups and down, and i can’t even feel the nauseous. More like i don't have time to feel it.


As far as i can feel, i feel grateful. And i guess the universe still put me on the class so that i can learn more and more and more. Just gonna go with the flow sounds so boring, but actually that’s the plan. 

October 2, 2014

we judge because we don't understand.



“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” ~Paulo Coelho


December 19, 2013

Date a girl who travel...



Date a girl who travels. Date a girl who would rather save up for out of town trips or day trips than buy new shoes or clothes. She may not look like fashion plate, but behind that tanned and freckled face from all the days out in the sun, lies a mind that can take you places and an open heart that will take you for what you are, not for what you can be.

Date a girl who travels knows that anytime, anything can happen and she just has to be prepared with it. Nothing takes her by surprise; she takes everything with equanimity, knowing that such things are always a part of life. She’s reliable and dependable, traits that she’s learned while on the road.

You’ll also recognize a girl who travels by the fact that she’s always amazed at the world around her, no matter if she’s in her home town or in a place that’s totally new. She sees beauty all around her, not just the ones featured in travel guides or shown in postcards/ a girl who travels has developed a deeper appreciation for life. She won’t judge you, or pressure you to do things you don’t want to do. She knows too much about the importance of identity and self-efficacy, and she will appreciate all the more if you won’t pretend to be who you’re not.

You can make mistake with a girl who travels, and you can also be a idiosyncratic as you can be. Trust me, she has seen so much worse in her travel, and knows firsthand the vagaries of human nature.

Date a girl who travels, because when you’re with her, you’ll realize that even though she’s napped at a temple in Angkor Wat, went boating down the Mekong Delta, ran by streets of Saigon, or went skinny-dipping in the caves in the Philippines, she still retain that humility that is the mark of a real traveler. She knows she’s been a to a lot of places, but she’s humbled by the fact that the world is still a big place and she’s only seen a small part of it. Seeing this in her can make you feel all right with yourself too, there’s no need for you to do more, to be more. What you are is enough.

When you meet a girl who travels, ask her where she’s been and what’s going to do next. She will appreciate your interest, and if you’re lucky, she may invite you to join her. When she does, do. Nothing bonds people better than travelling. On your trips, you both will see each other’s  best and worst characteristics, and you can then decide whether she’s worth fighting for.

It’s easy enough to date a girl who travels. She wont want expensive gifts; you can buy her (or both of you) cheap tickets to Thailand for the weekend, and she’ll be more than happy to take you to the longest wooden bridge in the country.  You don’t even have to go overseas; you can take her out on day trips, caving or hiking or treat her to a full body massage.

She won’t mind if you get lost on your way to a date. She knows that oftentimes, the journey is more important than the destination. She will help you see the lighter side of things. She’ll walk along with you, not behind you, pointing out the interesting bits of things you’ll see on the way. Before long, you’ll realize that yes, the journey has been memorable than the destination that you've planned to take her to.

Is a girl who travels worth it? Yes, she is. So when you find her, keep her. Don’t lose her with your insecurities and doubts. Because when she says she loves you, she really does. After all, she’s seen so many things, met so many people, and if she chosen you, better grab that opportunity and thank the gods that you were lucky enough she’s chosen you and not that bloke she met along her journey.

If she says she loves you, she must seen something in you, something that can always call her back from her travels, something that can anchor her to the world in the way that she wants to after weeks and months of being on the road.

Date a girl who travels. Makes her feel safe, warm and secure. Make her believe that no matter where she goes, and however longs she’s gone, you’ll always be there for her, the one that she can call home.



October 5, 2009

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Elizabeth: I guess I’m just looking for a reason.
Jeremy: From my observations, sometimes it’s better off not knowing, and other times there’s no reason to be found.
Elizabeth: Everything has a reason.
Jeremy: Hmm. It’s like these pies and cakes. At the end of every night, the cheesecake and the apple pie are always completely gone. The peach cobbler and the chocolate mousse cake are nearly finished… but there’s always a whole blueberry pie left untouched.
Elizabeth: So what’s wrong with the blueberry pie?
Jeremy: There’s nothing wrong with the blueberry pie. Just… people make other choices. You can’t blame the blueberry pie, just… no one wants it.
~ My Blueberry Nights